Remember “back in the days” when all you saw on Facebook were people starting new relationships, always posting those happy-sounding relationship announcements, declaring their love for each other, followed by a series of “I love you more” comments?
Remember how happy everyone was when that trend finished up and went away? Well, now we’re entering what must be the end of all those relationships, because a new trend of “breakup announcements” has started. Sure, it’s just people keeping their friends and family updated on their life, but we’re starting to see one after another.
In the “breakup announcement” posts, it’s usually a “mutual” theme. Sort of a positive, happy, “it just wasn’t working out, and that’s ok” sort of post. Psychology professor Karen Prager says that the messages can be a good thing for the couple to announce just on the basis of closure. It helps them provide a clear, concrete stance on the status of the relationship with no “exceptions” or other gray areas left behind. Sort of a finalization statement.
A relationship counselor says that she thinks the messages are driven and influenced by celebrity breakups. You always see the quotes in the tabloids, “so-and-so and whats-his-name called it quits, announce mutual split” or something along those lines. A “conscious uncoupling,” popularized by Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin. People see what celebrities do, and try to emulate that.
It also has something to do with how much of one’s life one shares all over social media. So many personal things are shared on a daily basis, it’s almost like we’re literally with people throughout their day experiencing things with them sometimes.
How are you about sharing on social media? Is a breakup announcement necessary, or should that be reserved for close friends and family only?